On July 24th,
2013, my cousin Joe Sweeney passed away. He left behind a wife and children. Currently
my family is mourning for a loss that weighs on their hearts. I am also in this
category. I have not seen my cousin for about 10 years, but I remember the joy
and even the trouble he would bring when I was little lol. I also know that he
was very loved by my family and I know how close my family is in the North and
I know that they are all feeling pain. My heart breaks along with them and my
prayers will continue to go out for them.
Losing a
loved one is traumatic and there is no word to describe the pain and heartache
that follows. While the world continues to turn, it seems that your world
suddenly stops. When my best friend, and who I still consider my brother Devon
Monivis, passed away, my world again froze. People would offer their sincerest
apologies but their lives would continue to move on. The fact of the matter is
that loss happens every day, from the controversial death/murder of Trayvon Martin to the person who just died of starvation in Africa with the ending of
this sentence. Death plagues our society. Yes, some of it is natural; however,
much of it is not. There is too much murder, too many ‘accidents’, too many
rapes, too many drug overdoses, and too much violence. There is too much pain,
and yet, while all of these things happen, the world moves on virtually unaware
of the morbid reality that millions (if not a couple of billion) face.
Jesus calls
us to mourn with those who are mourning. In order to mourn, one has to try to
understand that pain. There are those ‘fake apologies’ that really bother me
when a loss happens close to home. These are the ones who just say sorry for
your loss like it’s an obligation. Then there are those who really put in
effort to help bring comfort. They will cook you food, spend time with you,
etc. Maybe the way that will help us to truly mourn with others is to place one
of our loved ones in the shoes of the deceased. How would you feel if your child
died of a drug overdose, how would you feel if there was a horrible car
accident with someone you love in the car? What would you do if your mother or
brother was dying from cancer? What would be your response if your newborn
child suddenly died from some complication? Even with these thoughts, it is
only a start to feeling the pain. No amount of imagination (unless you actually
have experienced the same type of loss yourself) can come close to the reality
of the pain. Yet, Jesus still tells us to stop and mourn with others. He does
not want us to ignore the people dying in poverty; he does not want us to
ignore the homeless or the drug attics. He wants us to be proactive and help
them. He wants us to bring comfort to the hurting, healing to the sick, and
clothing to the naked. So I encouraged you today, be aware of someone’s pain , pray for them and sincerely seek to love them.
I also want
to encourage those who are hurting at the moment of reading, comfort will come.
Though the loss will always be there, the pain can be healed and love can fill
that gaping hole. =)
“Blessed are
those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” –Mathew 5:4
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